Conversation Mindfulness - Thoughts from Chanda

Have you ever been in a conversation with someone and suddenly you become aware that your words and the content of the conversation is filled with negativity? You are in mid sentence, and suddenly it comes into your awareness that what you are saying is in the realm of complaining, whining, moaning, gossiping, or just plain nasty?

Words spoken out loud make a difference. In my reality everything in the universe is energy. Words are no exception. The energy contained in the words you say exit your mouth and go somewhere. They don’t just disappear. According the law of quantum physics,
everything….including thoughts and words, linger around us. Imagine now all those negative thoughts you’ve had lately about another person, or how poorly you spoke about someone in the presence of someone else. Are you really willing to continue that pattern of energy, or would you like to impact a change in the world around you?

I love to talk. As a matter of fact, it is one of my favorite past times. However, lately I have become acutely aware when the conversation starts to take a turn. If I am expressing negative things about myself or about others I notice those I’m with looking tired, depressed, and concerned. Not only that, I feel worse after the conversation than I did in the beginning. The only purpose was to somehow justify my beliefs and emotional reactions to the situation. However, it just created more headaches and unsettled feelings after the conversation ended.

We all have judgments. These are connected to deeply held beliefs that have formulated over time. To think that you can be completely neutral about everything would mean you aren’t awake or responsive to your environment. However, the choice to apply love in those areas that you are irritated by, or which are persistent complaints is the key to shifting your attitude and your surroundings. Those judgments are superficial, untrue and most likely are there as a way for you to hang onto old ways of being that do not serve you or anyone else.

The first step in shifting this is through awareness. Become truly aware of what you are saying in every moment. If you are complaining about the weather, then guess what? You will not feel good, nor will you assist others in feeling good about it. If you are gossiping about someone at work, then most likely that will create a snowball effect which perpetuates more of the same in that work environment.

Make the choice to influence your life and the nature of your relationships through conversation mindfulness. Suddenly you will find others wanting to be around you more often. If you truly are concerned about someone, and need to express it, be responsible. Get in touch with a counselor, or a trusted friend or spouse. However, move past it as quickly as you can by recognizing what you are learning from that person or situation, or how you can impact it for the betterment of everyone involved. If you are on the receiving end of negativity, be compassionate and then be a stand for turning the thoughts and words into something everyone can benefit from rather than dwelling and agreeing. Apply a sense of forgiveness in that situation, determine how best to move forward and then act. That turns the negative into something truly valuable.

Shifting your belief system to love creates healing for you and the world. It’s one truly great way of shifting the consciousness for the entire planet. One kind word cancels out hundreds of negative. This world needs a little love. Let it begin with you.